I have heard a lot about couple counseling, it’s in hype these days that’s why I choose this topic to write because I think there are lots of misconceptions and supposition about the counseling. Even some couple don’t have any idea about what counseling is exactly in general and then they assume lots of misunderstanding which may become a cause of separation among them. So today I am going to share some basic reasons I personally think, couples are seeking counseling.
To solve conflicts between them
It’s good to have a healthy conflict in a relationship but sometimes couples have never-ending conflicts between them. Unfortunately, couples feel like they are stuck in a situation which is occurring again and again. So instead of solving that particular conflict by having a proper conversation, they prefer to have a counseling. We think that it will help them to resolve the conflict.
I have read somewhere that
“Conflict can and should be handled
constructively; when it is, relationships benefit. Conflict avoidance is *not* the hallmark of a good relationship. On the contrary, it is a symptom of serious problems and of poor communication.”
To Have A Better Communication
while having a communication sometimes we miss some important links then there is a possibility to have a conflict. I think in deep we all want to learn how to communicate better. Nowadays everything is changing like our conversation is becomes texting, feelings become status updates.
We need someone to help us out from that situation and probably find the missing links between them.
“The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand we listen to reply”
To prioritize their relationship
This is the most common problem we are facing now. We are so busy in our own lives that we don’t even have a time for ourselves. There is a day when your daily routine doesn’t let you have a proper conversation with your partner and your partner may feel like ignoring. Then slowly your bond becomes faded and you feel like you are not connected anymore.
So they prefer to have a counseling because they can spend a time with each other to prioritize and focus on their relationship rather than doing the daily routine.
“what I want,” instead of “what we want”
To get closer
There are lots of couples which share a strong relationship with their partner but they take counseling because the want wants to understand each other in a better way. It takes a lot of hard work to make your relationship perfect. Most of the couple go for counseling because they are planning to get committed but they are not mentally prepared for this so they want to attend counseling to help them out and have a better understanding.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
Why do I think the article is important? Well, for numerous reasons. The one is that we need support in normalizing counseling, connection, and commitment! We need to spread the word in helping others feel normal, confident and comfortable with going outside of their comfort zones and seeking support! There is nothing wrong with that!