HOW TO BUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP ?

It’s common to assume some level of trust in a new relationship but sometimes that trust is misplaced or misunderstood. Before you can build trust, you have to understand what it means to you and your partner. Take the time to understand what your partner is looking for in a relationship and make sure your needs are also expressed. When you begin there, building trust becomes much easier. To help you take the next steps.

Earn your trust:

Trust is not a thing that readily available in any relationship. You need to earn it by taking care of your behavior and actions. When we stop taking trust for granted and make it a priority, we will be conscious of our actions and the perceptions of those actions to our partner.

Clear your doubts:

If you have any doubts about your relationship talk to your partner about them instead of hesitating to ask them.

Forgive each other:

 

when your spouse owns up his/her mistake, be humble enough to forgive. Don’t hold on to past fights, let go, accept, and make the most of ‘now’. Trusting each other doesn’t mean mistakes won’t happen ever but if it happens to be forgiving. Letting go of the mistakes, accepting the apology and moving on builds a trust based on truth and love

Listen actively:

 

When your spouse is talking to you, listen actively and without judging. They will also listen to you when you talk. This habit lays the foundation for establishing trust

Communicate transparently:

Talk openly and honestly and make sure that you discuss important things in person instead of texting or talking on the phone. Messages can be misinterpreted. Talking face-to-face is easier as you can understand each other’s intentions, emotions, and body language. Effective communication is an important element in building trust

Keep your promises:

When you make a promise make sure you stick to it. Don’t make promises just for the sake of keeping your partner happy because breaking a promise is one the easiest ways to breach trust. Keep your promises about little things as important as you keep your promises about the big things

Show interest:

Know your partner’s tastes and hobbies. Show your genuine interest by being inquisitive, ask questions, and learn from them. If your spouse gets the vibes of your sincerity, you will earn their trust.

Admit your mistakes:

 

It’s natural to make mistakes, but owning them is not easy. The first thing on your agenda of building trust is to admit your mistakes. Don’t try to cover up your mistakes; the situation becomes messier if you do so. Repentance shows that you want to build trust.

 

Judge less love more:

Don’t criticize or judge your partner. Instead, put forth your opinions in a constructive way with the intention of helping your partner grow. Respect each other’s differences without judging. Before you can trust, you must respect each other and your differences without judgment.

Support each other:

 

Being supportive is a given in any relationship. When you support your partner, they would want to try new things and are not hesitant to take up risks because they know that they can fall back on you for support.

Tips to enhance mutual understanding with your partner

We all knew that all the couples went through some arguments at some point in time, but there are many ways out there to handle your problems. The way you choose shows the mutual understanding between you and your partner. Today MU has become a huge problem for couples. I think this is all that depends on our patience level and how well we know our partner. Sometimes it is better to avoid some topic that may end up having arguments. You can take a positive approach to avoid these situations.

Well, sometime you should take a step back or sometime your partner that is exactly what mutual understanding stand level you have. If you have great MU then you can solve the problem by not arguing also. So here I am going to share some tips which think can help you to foster your mutual understanding.

Think before you speak

This is good practice not only for mutual understanding but also for good relationships. By doing this you may be able to communicate effectively with your partner. It’s not all about winning an argument but it is about telling your concerns in a good way so that your partner can also understand it. Try to be focused and clear on your thoughts, so that he/she can effectively understand what you are trying to say.

Accepting each other’s flaws

 

The very first thing that one is perfect in this world. Each one of us has the flaw which we don’t want to discuss or accept in front of others. We always try to hide our mistakes by pointing at others. I know it is sometimes difficult to accept your flaws in front of your partner. But in a great relationship couple should accept each other’s flaws and try to acknowledge them. Personally, I feel when you both start admitting your imperfections (I know it is the bit difficult ) and keep your patience level high then you can have a more mutual understanding with your partner.

 

Taking a Step Back To Calm Down

Sometime when you are going through emotional situations

you may feel low and you will not be able to focus. So it is good practice to put yourself on a hold for a minute and relax for some time then only you will be able to understand what your partner is trying to tell you. Maybe to can just close your eyes for some time and start counting. Make yourself ready for listening openly to your partner’s feeling without passing an immediate judgment on the same.

 

Being Real and Transparent

When you are new to a relationship you may sometime try to hide things from your partner, this may be you are not comfortable to tell your partner at that moment of time. Well, think about it if you try to hide thing this reflects that you don’t trust your partner or you’re loyal to that person. In future when your partner will get to know about these little things from outside he/she may feel bad about it. Well, transparency is not about hiding things. This means that you are doing things in the dark that you are not able to do in the light. There is a difference between privacy and transparency. All that matters is the boundaries you set to keep secrets.

Love Life Insucurities

Insecurity is an inner feeling unsecured. We’ve all went through this feeling at least one time or another. But while it’s normal to have feelings insecure once in a while, insecurity can destroy your success in life and damage to your intimate relationships too.

Don’t Compare current relationships with past ones

Never try to compare your current relationships, as this is the worst thing which you can do to feel insecure in the healthy relationship. Because sometimes you feel that you are going through the same situation which happened earlier, so you just start assuming thing based on your past experiences which are pretty unfair because it doesn’t mean that if someone treated you badly in past will happen again. so you can not judge your partner based on your past experiences.

Stop thinking it is all about you

Some time in relations it happens when your partner does not feel like going out with you, don’t imagine it is because you may he is feeling low or has a bad day at the office. So rather than making assumptions try to understand his situation. Just try to make him feel good as ask him “what are you thinking, is everything alright.”

 

Be independent

A healthy relationship starts with two healthy people. In a relationship taking care of your needs for your personal well-being are must to maintain balance in a relationship. you can feel more secure about your life When you don’t depend on your relationship to fill all of your basic needs. You can spend time with your friends. You can maintain your independence: like taking out time for your own friends, hobbies,  and interests, maintaining financial independence. So I other words you can simply take some time for yourself rather be dependent on your partner.

Stop Being Right Or Wrong.

 

How do you can feel when someone blames you for something that is not your fault? Obviously, you will try to defend yourself. In the same way, Tackling your partner over a problem When you do n’t even know how obvious it may be to you, can cause your partner to be defensive. As a result instead of solving conflicts, you try to prove yourself right in front of your partner. It is better to solve the problem in that situation. There is something which you don’t find the correct wait for the right moment to have a proper conversation.  Tell your partner neither of you is fully “right” or “wrong.” We can find the missing link between us.